School is not easy, here’s a much more realistic view of it:
1. Realise no one is good at everything
There are some people that seem to be really good at basically every subject and some people even are! But it’s really important to remember that you can’t ace everything. School isn’t just about learning, it’s also about finding out what you’re good at and what you like doing, I mean sure the teacher will push you but that’s just so you can reach your full potential in everything NOT ace everything! If trying your best gets you a C in math or a D in english then that’s fine as long as you tried hard.
2. Being cool in school really doesn’t matter: being nice does.
I remember on the last day of school when we faced the world and all talked about the next steps we were taking, never to come here again, never to sit on this wall, never see these faces and buildings behind the school walls, on that day the school ‘social structure’ collapsed and all of a sudden I found myself sitting next to incredible ‘cool’ people talking to incredible ‘uncool’ people and from that day forward it became overwhelmingly obvious that being a nice person gets you friends and a nice person is what you want to be!!! You can start early now you know, everyone accepts a nice person.
3. Actually do some work
it’s boring no one likes it but it’s what school is all about. Do some work because days before your final exams the thought “I wish I had payed attention more/worked harder in this class” will cross many of your minds many times.
4. If you don’t feel ready right now, you’re not.
I remember young couples from school wanting to take their relationship further or immature boys boasting about the sex they’ve ‘had’. If any of these people actually came face to face with the opportunity to have sex they would crumble from embarrassment and basically breakdown, but that’s ok, you’ve got plenty of time for sex; if you don’t feel ready right now, you’re not.
5. people will change just watch
it’s likely that the friends you made in your first year will be completely different by the end of school, some people will come out, some people will change their attitude or the way they act, some people will drastically change their appearance, some will even be virtually unrecognisable. This is a natural change that you can expect to happen, to you also.
6. Your parents may have forgotten what you’re going through
It’s been a long time since your parents were your age so “I have so much homework” or “this teacher sucks” doesn’t sound anything like as important to them as it does to you, sure they care about you and want you to be happy at school but if you want them to truly understand it’s likely that you’ll have to remind them of when they were teenagers because they were at one point too!
7. There’s always someone you can talk to about anything
Whether it’s a counselor, your parents/gardian, a nurse, a friend, a pet or anyone/anything else you feel comfortable talking to; if you look then you will find someone.
8. Movies are movies
Movies are peoples ideals and stories, the vast majority of them have nothing to do with life itself so don’t go expecting a wonderful school romance or anything like high school musical, because they are fantasies. School is school, sometimes wonderful things can happen there but you have to remember movies are just movies.
9. It’s ok to not know something
Put your hand up and ask if you don’t know the answer to something, that’s what teachers are for, they are there to teach you funnily enough and if they have to explain something to you countless times then they will because that’s what they love doing. If everyone already knew everything then school would be pretty pointless!
10. Making mistakes is part of growing up
I’m not just talking about mistakes in the classroom but any mistake; creating awkwardness, having a bad relationship, getting into a silly fight, acting inappropriately, making decisions that have bad consequences are all part of growing up and don’t you dare let anyone else tell you otherwise. Put things behind you and strongly move forward now you’ve learned from a mistake you’ve made.
11. Stop looking for a soulmate and live a little
You may find the ‘love of your life’ in school but it’s very unlikely you will, mostly because they are likely to dramatically change come the end of school and also because it’s likely you both share different dreams and aspirations that will take you different places, it’s important to focus on studying and much less important to focus on finding ‘the one’ seriously it’s a waste of time. You may even think you’ve found the one but put bluntly and honestly: you probably haven’t.